Janna Holterman 00:00
All right. So, welcome back to another episode of Unlocking Your More. Today, we're going to be talking about social media and social media in the context of this is for you if you are a chronic doom scroller. If you are just like avoiding life or just getting sucked in, and you're like, I don't know what happened to the last 45 minutes because I've literally just been scrolling social media. For me, I mostly use social media for my business, and I would like get up open social media to go post something, and then time flies. I literally have been scrolling, and the thing is, I know that it's a problem. But what I was doing was I literally had like app locks on it and the screen time monitoring, and I would like literally set like 15 minute time blocks that I could go onto the app and I would use it, but then I would just open it and then I put locks on it, so I had to enter the passcode in order to get into it, and then I would just open it again. And I also did just start using not that long ago a new app that like makes it like black and white, and it blocks your like for you page and just like the homepage that has all of the like you know TikToks or Reels or wherever whatever depending on the app you're at, and that really helped. But I was like, okay, there's still a part of me that is like wanting to go and scroll, and I notice this especially after a long day. Like if I go do my nursing shift and then I come home, my first desire to dissociate kind of thing, literally, that's what's happening, is to go scroll social media, and this is really interesting. So I have now been literally just using social media for my business, and then I'm getting off of the app. And the thing that actually shifted it, I'll tell you guys, so that you can start doing this for yourself too. It's that is a desire of yours to be off of the doom scrolling of social media. But a few things about the energetics of social media that I think are extremely relevant and important for you to notice. So, as humans, we are more energetic beings than we are actually physical beings, and when I say I am an intuitive, what I'm actually doing is reading people's energy, which is something that we all do. You meet somebody new, you get an immediate sensation of: Do I like this person? Do I not like this person? Do I want to engage with them more? Do I want to try to avoid them like the plague? Like, what is it about them that I do and don't like? And a lot of the times, we don't have any logical background for it. We're just like there's nothing here. That is your intuition kicking into play. What you're doing unconsciously is tapping into that person's energy. What are they projecting out? Or have you ever had the experience where you're literally with somebody and you just like say something rude to them, and you're like, oh my God! I would never say that. And then, like, I just like literally like couldn't control it. I just blurted it out when I was with this person. That is also you connecting into their energy. With your energy, you literally have a electromagnetic field and a creator field, which is basically what you create. Is so your thoughts and your belief systems that you've had for literally decades build your creator field, and what ends up happening is you are unconsciously handing people scripts on how to treat you, based on how you treat yourself, how what you believe about yourself, how you feel about yourself. All of those things are handing these scripts to everyone around us, which is why it's really important for us to understand and learn about this stuff, so we can start shifting the belief systems that are creating these patterns of people not recognizing us, or being rude to us, or not validating us. All these things, or the emotions.
Janna Holterman 04:16
How do we process the emotions so we're not exploding on people when we don't really mean to all these things, but anyway, these are all just examples of energy, how your energy is being broadcasted out, and how people are interpreting your energy. Now, the crazy thing is, this doesn't just work in person. This works virtually, and we are constantly like broadcasting out signals, and I want you to think of it like radio signals that you could tap into. Right, if you turn the knob on a radio, it's going to pick up different signals based on which connection you are tuned into, and this is what happens with social media. You and somebody could be across the planet are watching the same the same video at the same time. Now you are experiencing life, and maybe you're a little bit frustrated right now. You're only like 20% frustrated out of 100, but that other person who's watching the video, they're like 80% frustrated out of 100. But because you're both watching the video, you're tuned into the same energetic radio station, and now you both are experiencing the same emotion to some degree. You connect energy, and what ends up happening is you amplify the energy, so you're both now going to be feeling 80 plus 20 100% frustrated, and so if you, I wanted you, I want you to be like, okay, like your brain might be like, what the fuck, but I want you to think when you've spent time doom scrolling. How do you feel when you put down the phone? Do you feel more energy, more joy? Do you feel satisfied with the life that you have? Do you feel better in any way, shape, or form if you're scrolling down your for you page, your reels, your TikToks, because I had to ask that question for myself, and I can tell you that I felt drained. I felt more exhausted. I felt more dissociated. I felt more just like blah, like unmotivated, and being off of social media, I recognize the difference so much, like literally exponentially changed, because now I actually have a lot more creativity. I want to create more content because I actually have ideas that are flowing from me. I want to do more to create things for the world rather than just consuming things for the world, because not only are you connecting energy and amplifying most of the time negative energy that you might be experiencing, and no, no true emotions or like thoughts or like all that like negative everything everything has its positive as a negative. But I mean, like this stuff that feels bad, stuff that's like not enjoyable for you. You're watching. Other people are watching at the same time. You're connecting energy. You're amplifying. And if you don't know how to disconnect that experience, you don't know how to cut cords. You don't know how to energetically disconnect that. You're remaining energetically connected, so you think about this over time. You're literally connected to like 1000s of people, and are the people who you're like, especially because you know, I don't know if you're like me, but but you can get sucked into the story times, right? Like the story times of the crazy shit that happens to people. The like, oh my god, really? Like that could happen to you? Like people like reading all these like Reddit stories of like you know the crazy shit and like bridezillas and all these horrible things that have happened, or like I don't know people in like cults who got out of it and then talking about how crazy the cult is. Like I mean, I feel like I feel like that's just like fascinating, right? It's like today's modern version of like watching TLC things, right? Like, it's fascinating for our brains. Like, we're all just like on this. Like, oh my god! Like, what? What got to the point? Like, how did they get into this? Like, what? Like this? That was my brain. But like, are those the people that you want to be like energetically connected with? Because they're probably not the people who are where you want to be-they're probably not the people who are creating what you want to create. They're probably not the people who are feeling the way that you want to feel.
Janna Holterman 08:48
And so, when we are connecting in with them, we are sharing their emotional experiences and amplifying our own that are probably not what we want to feel. And so this was a huge awareness of right, like how our brains work, how our like nervous system works. And if you want to take away the energetic side, we can just talk about the neuroscience. Like, let's take a moment for the neuroscience. We have these things called mirror neurons. What is a mirror neuron? A mirror neuron is literally your brain trying to amp, like amp or like almost like mirror somebody else, so that you feel more connected to them. You want your brain wants to build this like no like trust, right? Like we want to be more like the people we are around, so we are accepted, and so our mirror neurons are designed for that. The easiest way you can do this is like notice somebody yawn, and then you yawn. And I was literally talking to my one of my clients who is a nurse last week, and she was talking about how, you know, normally if there is a really sad situation in the unit, even if it's not her patient, she always feels like really sad and like somber and emotional about it. And I was like, "Oh, like that's a normal human thing. What's happening is your mirror neurons are firing and telling you, like, "Hey, you know, something bad has happened. Like these people are really emotional, so you get emotional. That means what you do is you meet them where they're at. It is part of a quality of being an empath, right? Like we meet them where they're at, which means we can relate to them, we can connect with them, and we can bond deeper. Is that something that we always want to utilize as a nurse? Not necessarily, because then you are literally like depleting all of your own energy. But when we have a deeper understanding of how this works, we can use it to our advantage. So when it comes to social media, you're consuming information. Your mirror neurons are firing and saying, "Hey, you should act this way. Hey, you should behave this way. Hey, you should talk this way. Right? Think about like you start becoming friends with something, and they have like the stupidest saying. Right? You're like, "That's the dumbest saying ever, and then you say it jokingly to them, and then you know after a couple of weeks you're saying it unconsciously, mirror neurons. So, are we wanting to mimic what we are being shown on social media? Is it benefiting our brains? Is it benefiting your life in any aspect? And then there could be things like right for me there is benefits to social media for me as this is a way to connect with people. This is a way to connect with like-minded people and to grow my business. I want to make those high-quality connections with people. So like yeah, there are some benefits, but I have to be intentional with what I am using it for. So let's get into the how I actually use my intuition to break my social media addiction. Because I I told you I had used all these apps. I had been like I don't want to do social media as much as I am. Like this is this is something that I've been wanting to do for a while, and I hadn't been able to even putting all these hoops that I had to jump through. I was still jumping through them hoops. I was doing it. So what I did was I looked at the area of my life that's most valuable to me, and the way the the way values work, I'm definitely going to record an episode at some point on this. But the way values work is we normally have three main values that are running our decision making power in our lives. So if something is your top value, that is going to be what your brain is basing on whether or not you should do something, and if that thing goes against your value, you're probably going to be repulsed by that thing.
Janna Holterman 12:49
If that thing goes in alignment with your value, you're going to want to do that thing, and when we really understand values, is a great way to brainwash yourself into doing what you feel like you actually should be doing right. So if you're like, oh, I want to eat healthy, but one of your values is being comfortable in life, is your desire to eat healthy going to overcome when your highest values is, which is being comfortable in life? Probably, probably not, because your brain's going to be like, oh well, that's not helping me be comfortable. Like I got to go to the grocery store and go buy these things, and that's just like extra effort, and it's not going to make me comfortable. So for me, one of my highest values is my business, right? So achieving certain goals in my business, impacting people, right? They're they're kind of all along those lines. Making certain amount of money, increasing my radiance, the energy behind the money in my personal and professional life. So when I looked at okay, something that's really important value to me is time and the amount of time that it takes me to reach certain business and financial goals, right? So the business and the finances are very high values to me, and obviously I want to work towards those as fast as humanly possible. So I have been, you know, how do I most efficiently use my time, right? I want to be efficient. I want to be doing the quote-unquote least amount of work that I can do to get the most amount of gain. So, I looked at my highest value being money and my business growth. Right, like I want my business to succeed and I want to reach certain financial goals. Great. Then I looked at how much time is being taken from me by scrolling through social media, and this is something that I intuitively looked at. So, if you don't have trained intuition, I'll get into that in a second. But if you have trained intuition, you can look at the time. So, when I looked at how much time is being like subtracted from my soul path, soul pull business, so the business that I am designed to be creating in this lifetime that my soul has chosen and my higher self like wants me to be on, right? So my soul path business, right? How much time is being taken from that path by doom scrolling on social media? And this is time that I'm actually spending on social media, but this is also the time that I am being slowed down by all of those like emotions and the mirror neurons and connecting in with other people's energy, and then just feeling like dissociated and numb and like not really like wanting to work on things because that was what I was doing. I was like using social media, and then I felt blah. And when you feel blah, you don't want to go work on things. So all of that combined was going to slow down my soul path business overall in my life by nine years. Nine years, like literally almost a decade, slowing it down, and I was like, "Oh shit, that's fucking insane! Nine nine years, right? This is like when you have like a a smoker, and you literally were to tell them that they would lose like nine years of their life, and they're like, oh, like I'm gonna miss time with my grandchildren, and I'm gonna like, you know, have all these things, and it's gonna be terrible. And they're like, oh, maybe I don't want to do this, maybe, maybe, maybe I should quit, and then like quit cold turkey. That's literally the experience that I had in my brain. So then I was like, okay, nine years overall, but like, what about my next business goal, the next thing, the thing that I'm working on right now towards in my business. So if I'm working on that like next goal, and it's big goal, like not like a little goal, right? So my next business goal, how much is it going to delay me getting to achieving that business goal? Six months. So I would literally be wasting, quote unquote, wasting, right?
Janna Holterman 17:03
Everything is relative, but like in my opinion, I would be wasting six months of getting to the goal of what's actually most important for me. And I immediately wanted to like chuck the phone across the room because I was like, "Oh, this is a problem. This is this is negatively affecting me, and I can see how much it's negatively affecting. Especially now, having stepped away from the social media, where I'm literally on it with such intention. I'm like posting, I'm responding to messages, and I'm getting the fuck off. It's changed like completely. I had no idea how much that was negatively affecting me until I fully like stepped away, and I was like, "Oh my God, I can come up from air. I have so much more clearer thinking, and like, oh my goodness, like I have so many tools, and I had no idea just how much that was negatively affecting me. So, I want you to start thinking about if you don't have intuition and you can't check that number, like maybe we can message. You can message me, or you can use a 10 minute read for something like that, because you're like, I need to cure my social media addiction. How do I do it and connect it with my brain? That's something I could use. Like, I could do a 10 minute read for, which you can access on the website under one on one working with me one on one. But start asking yourself, okay, what is most important to me in life? Like, what are the things that I choose over anyone else, what are the things I would cancel things for? Like, if this came up, I would cancel it because this is more important. What are the things I'm spending my money on? Like, what am I always bringing up in conversation? These are kind of how you start getting an idea of what your values are. Once you get those, like these are the things that are most important to me. Start asking yourself if you know my value is my children, or being recognized, or being healthy, pain-free, or growing my business, or reaching a financial income. Whatever it is, right? Whatever your value is, start asking: Is social media helping me achieve that or not? And just start like pros and cons list it. You can make a little T chart of like how is it helping, how is it not helping, and then after I doom scroll for you know an hour or however whatever time frame, you come up for air and you're like, oh my god, I've been on this for a while. How do you feel? What does it make you feel? Is that experience that you're having going to help you get closer to your values and build more of what is most important to you? Or not. This is something I think is going to be really beneficial for you to just get clear on. Like, what what is most important to me? What are the things that I value most in my life? And is this thing actually helping me move closer to it, or is it taking me away from it, and if it's taking me away from it, what do I want to do with that? Like, is it something that I need in my life? Are you like me, where you're like, okay, no, I actually have to use it for my business, or is it something you're like, I don't actually need this in my life? Like, what if I did a trial? What if I took a week off and I like deleted all the apps and just like did a you know zero to 10? How am I feeling before zero to 10? How am I feeling after? See what the experience is. See how much. If you delete the apps, see how much you pick up your phone to go open that app because that's also like mind fucking blowing, right? Like when we realize how unconsciously we are literally doing it, and the the way that the algorithm is set up, like it is literally set up for like truly brainwashing, right? This is this is what they want. They want to keep you on the app. They want to keep you addicted for as long as possible.
Janna Holterman 20:50
So you delete the app, see how often you go to pick it up, and just being like, okay, if I devoted even a 10th of this time that I'm doing just like picking up the phone to something that helped me move closer my values of the things that I want most in this life. How beneficial and impactful could that be? And is that something that I'm willing to look into, to experience, to trial, and just get curious? Like, be a little scientist about it. Like, okay, how am I feeling before? How am I feeling after? Like, is this benefiting me? Am I am I moving towards what I want or am I pulling myself further away from what I
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